Every January, we are flooded with messages telling us to become better versions of ourselves overnight. New goals, new habits, new you. And yet, many of us quietly carry the same frustration year after year when those resolutions fall apart by February. If that sounds familiar, you are not failing. The system you were taught to use may not have been built with your real life in mind. As a Black male therapist in NYC , I see this pattern often, especially among high-functioni