Mental Health & Therapy Blog

For many Black men, the hardest part of therapy isn't talking. It's deciding to walk through the door in the first place. Before that first appointment ever happens, there are often months or years of wondering whether therapy is really necessary, whether it will help, or whether anyone could actually understand what life has required of you. If you're wondering what your first therapy session might actually feel like, you're asking one of the most common questions I hear. No

There is a particular kind of loneliness that comes with being the person everyone depends on. You're capable, reliable, successful, and from the outside, your life looks like it's moving in the right direction. Underneath the accomplishments, you might be carrying stress, grief, or exhaustion that almost nobody sees. As a Black Male Therapist in NYC, I work with a lot of high-functioning professionals. The surprise for most of them isn't that they need therapy. It's realizin

On paper, everything looks fine. The career is moving forward. Responsibilities are being met. Deadlines are handled. Family members, colleagues, and friends may even describe you as dependable, driven, or resilient. Yet beneath that competence, there can be a quieter reality that few people see. The stress feels heavier than it used to. Relationships require more effort than they once did. Rest no longer feels restorative. Even moments of accomplishment can feel surprisingly

Some wounds are loud. Others move quietly through a person’s life, shaping relationships, confidence, communication, and self-worth without ever announcing themselves. Growing up without a father can be one of those quiet influences, especially for Black men who are already navigating pressure, stereotypes, and expectations in the world. Black father absence does not mean someone is doomed or broken. It means many Black men learned to build themselves while missing a blueprin

You’re still showing up. Still performing. Still getting things done. But something feels off, and you can’t tell if you’re just exhausted… or if it’s something deeper. A lot of the people I work with ask this exact question, especially high-achieving professionals who are used to pushing through. So let’s slow this down and actually look at what’s going on. Why This Question Is So Hard to Answer If you’re used to functioning at a high level, your baseline already includes st

From the outside, your life might look solid. You meet deadlines. People rely on you. You show up prepared. You probably get described as driven, responsible, or “the one who always has it together.” But internally, it might feel very different. Maybe your mind rarely turns off. Maybe rest makes you uncomfortable. Maybe your accomplishments feel more like relief than joy. High-functioning anxiety often hides behind competence, which is part of why so many people miss it in th

You worked hard to get here. Degrees. Promotions. Credentials. Late nights. And yet, in rooms where you are often the only Black face at the table, something shifts inside you. You find yourself wondering: Why do I feel so different than my white peers? Why do I feel drained and slightly inauthentic at work? Am I the only one who feels this way? You are not alone. And what you are experiencing may not be a personal flaw. It may be imposter phenomenon. What Is Imposter Phenome

Every February, Valentine’s Day shows up with flowers, heart-shaped boxes, and a quiet assumption that love should look a certain way. For many people, instead of warmth, it brings pressure, grief, comparison, or a sense that something is missing. If you find yourself wondering, Am I the only one who doesn’t love Valentine’s Day?, the answer is no. As a Black male therapist in NYC, I hear this question often. Valentine’s Day mental health concerns tend to surface most strongl

Every January, we are flooded with messages telling us to become better versions of ourselves overnight. New goals, new habits, new you. And yet, many of us quietly carry the same frustration year after year when those resolutions fall apart by February. If that sounds familiar, you are not failing. The system you were taught to use may not have been built with your real life in mind. As a Black male therapist in NYC, I see this pattern often, especially among high-functionin

Every year, Thanksgiving pulls me into a familiar pause. Not just because of the food, the long-awaited reunions, or the ritual of laughing with family until we cry and feel the pain in our stomachs, but because even with everything going on around me, this season naturally invites to quietly check in about everything going on within me. What am I thankful for? What has shaped me, sustained me, stretched me this year? As a Black man navigating the world and as a therapist wal

Finding the right therapist can be life-changing, especially when you’re looking for someone who truly gets you. As a psychologist and Black male therapist in NYC, I understand how powerful it can be to work with a therapist who recognizes the realities, pressures, and cultural nuances that shape your life. My goal is to create a space where you feel seen, heard, and supported. Whether you’re facing anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, or simply need room to breathe